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I've done tons of research already over the past several months and taken risks and negative side effects into consideration, but for the most part I'm really excited and I feel like it would decrease, if not get rid of, my dysphoria. Thing is, my parents don't seem to care about my identity, meaning I can't talk to them or anyone more professional. I've tried to bring things up but it just gets ignored or pushed to the side which is why I'm really nervous. But I'm gonna try to mention it at my next doctor visit so my parents and doctor can both know I wanna start

Anyway sorry for the long reply I'm just excited/nervous and kinda need to vent

I’m trans, not a man tho. I’ve been on T for around 2 1/2 years.I was 18 when I started T, 16 when starting to socially transition and just got top surgery at 20. Before doing that I luckily had a pretty good therapist that helped me think hormones through as I first wasn’t sure if I wanted all the changes. I made a pro and con list and checked and worked on it quite a while to be able to make a solid and better informed decision. Making a list can also help when discussing it with parents and doctors, as being prepared helps you stay calm and better informed people are usually taken more serious.I was lucky that the psychiatrist that lead that therapy office specialised in trans* care (?) and therefore could get the recommendation letter pretty quickly compared to other people that have been working on getting hormones longer than I did. in my country you have a mandatory time you have to be in therapy before you can get the recommendation from your provider who then refers you to an endocrinologist. there is also the option of hormone blockers, they at least stop the period and any puberty related changes that haven’t already happened. I think your parents and doctor are more likely to agree to that first, since they have been proven as pretty save (side effects obviously exist, blocking oestrogenes will basically make you go through menopause) and are completely reversible.

Since you’re a minor you can’t really get around talking to your parents and getting their agreement, so you might have a better chance if you start with explaining your identity in basic terminology (even if that might not be the most accurate one) and that the puberty related changes are causing you distress. It’s probably better if you first get them to agree to blockers (and are on them in the best case) before trying for T, depending on how long it takes you might not need their consent for that anyways. Regarding top dysphoria people rarely get a mastectomy before they turn 18, is in the meantime I recommend wearing shirts that aren’t tight (but also not super baggy, that tends to make it worse) and layer anything that opens in the front over it. Short sleeved button ups are great for summer, especially since the heat can make the dysphoria hoodie™? pretty uncomfortable. This obviously works best with a small to medium sized chest, I had a b cup and could hide it really well this way. If it is possible for you you can also get a binder. Do your research on brands, take the correct measurements and rather size up than down. I mostly wore a size bigger than I was (my ribs are sensitive) and it worked pretty much as well as my right size while also being way more comfortable. The good ones can be pretty expensive, so also checking online second hand spaces is generally a good idea, just make sure not to buy from someone who has a sketchy profile, as scammers obviously exist.

Even if the cheaper prizes are tempting, only buy from brands that the trans* community trusts, for that I recommend checking out forums specifically for trans* people. It’s not worth risking your physical health and possibly ending up injured and unable to ever bind again.

Transtape and kt tape also work for many, even though the application can be tricky. If you’re interested in that option do your research and watch videos explaining it. Oil can help with a better removal.

good luck on your journey!

Rian (they/it

(I just saw that you’re from the USA, so depending on the state you might have to wait until you are old enough to move to a different state in order to transition safely, tho I hope you’re in one of the better ones. Everything also depends on if you have health insurance and what they are willing to cover)

To start, I honestly think this isn't the best place for advice considering the ages of people on here skew very young and probably aren't very well educated on the topic. It sounds stupid but if you want some better input you should try looking somewhere else, like an ftm sub on reddit and getting some info from people who have been transitioning for a long time, and how they felt at the beginning of their journey.

I also think it's important that you're completely certain you want to make this choice - have you tried talking to a therapist about your gender and what you want to look like? To be blunt, you say your preferred name is an anime name, are you sure you really want to take hormones which will make you look like a man physically? I'm not trying to talk you out of it or anything, but that is really something to take into consideration because T will permanently change your body.

You should definitely sit down and discuss your identity further with your parents if they aren't currently respecting you. Parents can be massive assholes sometimes and you should confront them as to why they aren't taking you seriously and have a serious conversation about it.

If you take anything away from this comment, let it be that going on hormones is serious business and not something to play around with. While gender identity is a hot topic right now, don't rush into anything that doesn't feel entirely right for you, and make sure you properly think things through before making any big decisions.

Feel free to msg me any time if you wanna talk more about it, id be down