graduation rant (tw//transphobia)

sagepawzzz 5/25/2023 08:12 am 370

ok so my 8th grade graduation is like next week. one of my teachers who is like very transphobic is gonna be announcing the names. he said that he like is gonna have to deadname me because its "a legal thing and he doesn't want to get in trouble" but like im literally gonna cry if i have my deadname announced. my parents are transphobic and he's scared hes gonna lose his job if he calls me sage. im so scared i dont know what to do. my friend is having their prefferred name announced too so its not like its a blanket thing. I don't know what to do. I talked to my comfort teacher about it briefly but she was like "well i mean your parents are gonna have to come anyway". the thing is though,, I was in my schools fine arts fest and they called me sage. it was fine. i told him that but he's still insisting on calling me my deadname. i know my school councilor would probably be like "yeah he doesn't want to lose his job" and I'm also scared of my assistant principal but my friends keep on telling me to email him about it. i literally don't know what to do this is supposed to be fun but its being ruined for me.

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Bloodborne
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May 25, 2023 2:37 pm

maybe u could say its more of a nickname? it sucks this is happening to u =(

Phosfate
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May 25, 2023 1:26 pm

@sagepawzzz: Yeah, I just don't get how, like, cis people get to be called Mittie or Chunkhead because they hate their given names and nobody cares, but if you're trans it's like you're asking to play hackey sack with the Hope Diamond.

I don't have much graduation advice because I was absolutely done with HS and refused to go. I only got guilted into college graduation because my mom took care of me for a week when I got chicken pox in the middle of my last final. (Y'all don't want chicken pox if you're over ten, trust me.) Of course, she was also the one who assured me I'd already had it and it was perfectly safe to be around my friend's be-poxed daughter.

Trever_The_OutcastX3
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May 25, 2023 1:16 pm

@Agarest: Yeah my consuler told my parents im trans & I had the same talk I always get when my parents find out I'm trans or I tell them (Even though its never gonna change despite them telling e I'm not)

holdmymilkbud
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May 25, 2023 12:22 pm

that sucks! this happened to one of my friends, and they asked the teachers to use their preferred name when announcing, but the teachers said it wasn’t possible ( if you can ask your friend how they got them to announce their preferred name, they may have some advice ). they were also upset, understandably so, but they decided to just do their makeup more masc and their clothes under their robe more masc as well. and remember, just because a silly school doesn’t have common sense doesn’t make you any less valid. ( also congrats on graduating, that’s such a big accomplishment!!!) I hope this helps!

Agarest
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May 25, 2023 11:31 am

This sucks man. In my state if students confide in teachers about being trans they have to tell the kid’s parents. I constantly get called my dead name at school. Hope your graduation goes okay despite

Trever_The_OutcastX3
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May 25, 2023 11:31 am

I would ask the school about ti possibly, Ask your consluer too, Even though they might say what you fear, Its better to ask,a nd do something then not. And I really doubt he will lose there job if they say your preferred name. I know at least at my school, my friend whos MTF, has the teachers use her preferred name,and announce it and stuff (Ik some schools r different, but that's just how mine works) . But I'm sorry that's such a sucky situation for you, I feel the same way (because my parents aren't transphobic but don't support me cuz I'm too young to understand and bullshit like that) and there plainning on doing the same thing when i gradurate, But I hope it gets better!!

sagepawzzz
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May 25, 2023 11:20 am

@Phosfate: I could, idk they do know that my parents aren't okay with it tho. my parents are going to be there aswell so it'll be a sticky situation but id rather have them call me my preferred name. they should be able to deal with the backlash themselves.

sagepawzzz
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May 25, 2023 11:18 am

@horrorSans_IRLL: its not but thx ig

Phosfate
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May 25, 2023 9:36 am

Contact your local department of ed and find out if this teacher is really required to use your legal name. If they're not, ask if they can help you get your preferred name used.

LustSans_irl
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May 25, 2023 8:15 am

i'm so sorry man its gonna be finenenene

graduation rant (tw//transphobia)

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