trans umbrella folks! (cw: dysphoria talk)

cyber_wrld 7/29/2023 01:14 pm 1196

Heya! whats something random that gives you dysphoria? i feel like theres some things that could be considered odd to people who haven't experienced it.

for me, im non-binary (afab) and wearing a towel around myself in the stereotypically 'feminine' way makes me really dysphoric. its odd, because i dont typically experience dysphoria very often.

skirts also bother me (but only sometimes oddly enough. thats pretty standard though.)

edit cuz i thought of stuff later: my voice bothers me sometimes. some people tell me they hear it differently than i do or that they think its deep, but for some reason if i hear it in recordings or something its just so squeaky and high pitched.

also, being called typically feminine terms doesnt usually bother me, but like, my brother calls me "young lady" sometimes and i dont like it.

so, what about yall? common or uncommon dysphoria experiences, share away!!

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plurzombie
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Jul 30, 2023 5:59 am

I am completely fine in my room shirtless, and sit around, and its comforting in a way, I prefer to not wear a bra most of the time, yet the mere idea of being in public without one to be comfortable, even if i feel like I'm covered up properly near my chest, i get incredibly dysphoric in a way.

BlurredOut
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Jul 30, 2023 12:17 am

for me its the towel thing u mentioned, wearing a purse, any type and any style of makeup, certain jewelry and sometimes even the way i text or talk

Trever_The_OutcastX3
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Jul 29, 2023 11:09 pm

@JustDennis: No because the last time I went clothes shopping, One of the female workers there, Turned to me, and pointed to some ugly ass shirts & sweaters with like "GIRL POWER" and shit, She said "Why don't you look over here? Us girls need to empower each other!" Because I was looking at the men's section in secret from my parents LMAO

P1nk_Mal1bu_Barb13
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Jul 29, 2023 7:17 pm

I’m a dude and my two styles are either death metal singer or scene Barbie (yeah confusing lmao) so I usually have some form of painted nails and makeup on. Despite this, I just cannot stand when people point them out. Idk my brain hates it so kich

xX_UnWorthy_Xx
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Jul 29, 2023 6:37 pm

weirdly specific but purses for some reason

Smolgecko
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Jul 29, 2023 6:02 pm

For me I think its a lot of random things, I mostly identify as male or just more masculine than feminine, but I do still wear like skirts and stuff (though mainly just when my girlfriend comes over), I like wearing makeup, painting my nails and wearing jewelry but only really dark stuff which is kinda hard to find sometimes. And since I only really wear skirts or more "feminine" clothing around my gf I tend to wear a lot of jeans, sweatpants and sometimes leggings (also sort of faux jeansc just pants that really look like jeans but are made of something other than denim and are actually veey comfy) I rarely wear shorts but I don't mind them too much, when I do it feels weird cause I almost always have my legs covered though thats probably more just sensory related

The fact that I'm not out to almost any of my family also bothers me, mostly cause of what they'd call me because of it, I don't mind having a feminine body ~~and being a biological female~~ but I don't like being called girly or anything like that at all, and I've also recently realized that I've never liked being called that or being told to act more like a girl even since i was a kid. Same reason I genuinely depise my government name (its literally just "girl" in another language)

I know my hair has kinda given me some dysphoria as well, though mostly just when I can't do what I like with it, which for the most part right now I can just do whatever, but I've also started growing out the sides (which I've had shaved down for a while now) cause I want to try to have short hair all over, I guess a bit more like a sort of emo hairstyle? Or just a short fluffy hairstyle. I think me wearing beanies in public most of the time may also be a part of this, since it covers a lot of my hair (which I wear them even right now when its like 80 degrees outside)

I also don't really like how short and small I am that much, I'm technically underweight, I'm 5'4 (technically 5'3 or 5'3 1/2 but I just say 5'4) and most of the time my weight is around 95 pounds, and a lot of this is mostly cause I not only look physically weak but I also literally am very weak, I do genuinely want to get stronger but it feels very hard to for some reason, and I tend to wear bootd that are kinda like short ish platform boots because I like that they add a bit of extra height, since I really don't like feeling so small.

I don't like my voice much either, I've tried to deepen my voice on vrchat a few times (without any kind of filters) but its very hard and even when it kinda works I still feel like I sound too feminine, and I don't like hearing my own voice in recordings cause I literally sound like a 6 year old girl most of the time, and that'll probably make things kinda hard cause I really like to sing but if I have to hear my own voice in doing so and my singing voice still sounds like that I probably won't be able to do it knowing I sound like thay

This became way too long I'm sorry if its way too much to read