Question for neurodivergent ppl

z_b0n3_r0tt_z 6/25/2023 02:17 pm 891

Ok so I've heard other neurodivergent people explain that sometimes it feels weird when someone else likes something you really like, but doesn't anyone feel the opposite? Like I feel like I can't get into something or do something someone I know likes because they like it. It's partially because I don't want them to think I am copying them but it still happens sometimes even if the person is trying to get me into it. Just curious if anyone else feels like this too

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dragonsparkles
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Jul 3, 2023 1:13 pm

I feel this all the time about both. I struggle explaining things but I'll try my best

To me, it feels odd when someone else likes the things I do because I know I'm an odd duck in general so that means they're also an odd duck and it takes me awhile to process that there's actually someone with similar quirks as me. But after I realize that they're genuine then the odd feeling goes away.

On the opposite end, I feel the same way you do. It isn't true, but it feels like I'm stealing their interest away from them or something like that so I'm reluctant to get into their hobby or interest. I think most people are happy when you get interested in what they like, because then they have friends to share it with

Cinnamorolling_InMyGrave_
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Jun 28, 2023 10:27 pm

yeah majority of the time (at least for a while) I would pretty much get all of my interests from friends

bunston
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Jun 28, 2023 8:36 pm

happens to me all the time, especially with craft stuff, but i also end up dropping things when my friends get into them because for some reason i'm worried they'll feel upset that i'm also doing it

cyber_wrld
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Jun 28, 2023 4:56 pm

@z_b0n3_r0tt_z: me too! gatekeepers are so prominent and i worry ill be viewed as "less than" or something for not knowing every little fact

z_b0n3_r0tt_z
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Jun 28, 2023 4:38 pm

@jamboscrimblo: Omg yes exactly! That's another reason I feel like that. Like I feel like they will make fun of me or at least in their head for not knowing stuff and "being late to the party" or if they know something I can't figure out or something

cyber_wrld
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Jun 28, 2023 4:30 pm

in terms of things like fandoms its the opposite, i often pretend to like things my friends like as some sort of mirroring thing, like maybe if we have something in common theyll like me more. but when it comes to hobbies there are lots of things ive felt like im not allowed to like because thats someone elses "thing". why does everyone have to have a thing? why cant we all enjoy and share things? like, i bounce between like 20 hobbies, sticking to one interest just isnt enough for me, why box yourself?

jar_of_pickle
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Jun 28, 2023 10:44 am

yeah

it feels like im being annoying, like i'm copying everyone. i already imitate what others do just to fit in or seem normal

jamboscrimblo
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Jun 28, 2023 9:54 am

I feel that way, but for completely different reasons. I have a really hard time getting interested in new things because I worry that people who know more about the topic will make fun of me for not knowing as much about it as they do, or that I’m “late to the party” if that makes sense