Aros and Aces, come talk about your experiences :D

Aggressive_Daikons 2/28/2023 02:49 pm 916

I’m aegoro/aegosex and I really wanna see who else is under the ace/aro umbrella! I’ve done a ton of research on asexuality and aromanticism, along with plenty of microlabels, so if you are questioning I’d love to help out a bit :’). I love seeing what other’s experiences are like, and how they came to realize they’re a/a spec.

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XxFuN_gH0uLxX
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Mar 1, 2023 11:35 am

@Aggressive_Daikons: yeahh that's what it's called thanks

Aggressive_Daikons
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Mar 1, 2023 11:03 am

@XxFuN_gH0uLxX: I’m pretty sure that it’s recipromantic?

Aggressive_Daikons
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Mar 1, 2023 11:02 am

@ilikenumetal: Ofcc <3 always happy to help, and nwnw

ilikenumetal
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Mar 1, 2023 10:35 am

@Aggressive_Daikons: its okay, also i take no offense to ur comment or anything and i totally understand i think its actually very sweet of u to respond with some helpful info

with the labels ive not really looked into them too much before, but reading more about aegosexual that seems like it fits me honestly... and with alterous attraction as some third out-of-the-box thing it makes total sense, its just rare that i ever have feelings i cant put my finger on so my confusion is based off like 5 or less experiences lol.

sorry if this is short or phrased awkwardly, sometimes im just weird i do appreciate your reply tho and its always nice talking to someone ab how you feel on any level

Sleepy_Loss
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Mar 1, 2023 9:51 am

cw: i'll be mentioning societal pressures to have sex and sex repulsion

i'm a sex-repulsed asexual. growing up realizing i was queer was very difficult, but having the inability to explain this aspect of myself made it really difficult. i felt like i couldn't fit in with other queer people, but i also didn't fit in with heterosexual people either. being nblw and nblnb also added to this, because there was a lot of internet discourse around lesbians and asexuals, and i felt like i couldn't be in a relationship without sex, which was a really dangerous mindset to have.

i think i started seeing sex as something to give and do, rather than something to enjoy, but that was before i realized i didn't even enjoy it. around january this year I realized i was sex repulsed, which made a lot of things about my past relationships make sense. i just, don't enjoy the idea of having it. sex repulsion comes with its own set of stigmas, mostly people saying that they could cure me of it or that it's an illness. which, it's not.

i've always thought there's a bit of beauty in my asexuality, because it allows me to intimate with others in a completely different way than allos. my identity as an asexual also has made me become so much more comfortable with my love language of physical touch. i love holding my friends hands or cuddling with them, and knowing that they have no ulterior motive, and that they enjoy it as well? it's the most fulfilled i've been in a while, platonically. i have an amazing queer platonic partner as well, who is just,, they're one of my favorite people, ever. just being around them or hearing their voice is the best, and i want to be by their side always haha.

so to any sex repulsed aces out there, you are not broken or flawed, and it's not a bad thing. it's something unique or something beautiful, and you are so valid in your identity. i promise, the right people will love and accept you. it may take time to find them, but they're there.

XxFuN_gH0uLxX
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Mar 1, 2023 9:14 am

yo i'm grey-romantic and nebularomantic, i also don't usually feel romantic attraction unless the person likes me first which i think has a name i'm just blanking on it right now

lance_eats_bugs
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Mar 1, 2023 9:11 am

"your too young too know!" i think my trauma ruined the whole "adult fun time" thing... (im a teenager)

fairycake
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Mar 1, 2023 8:59 am

aro ace spec demisexual + greysexual and demiromantic

I definitely started wondering after I only had like 2 crushes before and never experienced attraction beyond that (I could rarely if I feel close enough and the attraction will last for a few years at a time

plus its really hard to tell between the different kinds of attraction and I'm pretty sure mine is influenced by autism

Strawberry_BroStrider
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Mar 1, 2023 8:43 am

@Aggressive_Daikons: I have! I actually do desire sexual relationships, it's just not very often that i consider it as an option. i also do in fact feel sexual attraction, it's the action part that's a darker grey, so ageo doesn't fit as well as simply greyace or greysexual. i appreciate the suggestions tho!

honestly i do kinda feel like i fluctuate between acespike and acejump

C4t_L0v3r
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Mar 1, 2023 8:06 am

I am Aro/ace and have never really felt attraction to anyone! Even in the one relationship I had, I just didn’t really feel anything and never felt really attracted to do anything with them. And ever since then, I discovered what I actually was and have been living happily! Happy to share this story with you all!

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