question about sexualities n' stuff

curehisheart 2/14/2022 12:39 pm 889

can you be genderfaun (basically genderfluid, but you don't ever identify with feminine (girl, demigirl, etc) genders) and lesbian? i feel somewhere on the nonbinary/agender spectrum 99% of the time, but since i feel male-ish sometimes (but not often), i was wondering if i could also identify as lesbian, as that's what i've identified with for years now and dont really feel connected to any other label.

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pawbean
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Feb 15, 2022 7:35 am

if thats the label you're connected to/feel you r most comforable with, 100% you can id as it!!

curehisheart
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Feb 15, 2022 7:31 am

@WATERPARKS: ah, okay! thanks! : )

WATERPARKS
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Feb 14, 2022 11:51 pm

sorry to be a debbie downer on this thread but yeah nah. sorry, but if your ONLY binary alignment is masculine you can't be a lesbian. yes, it's non-men for non-men, but when your only connection to gender is closer to male than female that's really inappropriate. same goes for feminine-aligned nonbinary people who want to id as gay men - if it's not SIMILAR gender attraction you're not gay and/or lesbian.

like, if you're not okay with a cis man id'ing as a lesbian then you shouldn't be okay with male-aligned people doing so.

if you don't want to id as straight (this is understandable considering you're nonbinary) trixic could work! (nonbinary attraction to women) it also includes bi people though, so you might want to specify that you're exclusively trixic (not toric, which is the nonbinary-into-men counterpart)

natluvscats688
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Feb 14, 2022 9:37 pm

@CoNN13Killz: you dont rlly have to pick

like it could fluctuate based on their gender atm

_EggyShellz_
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Feb 14, 2022 9:22 pm

YES 100%!! even transmascs can be lesbians (masculine enbys NOT trans men) in fact, transmasc lesbians are a HUGE part of lesbian history

Mush_bRainz
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Feb 14, 2022 6:28 pm

well its often used by non-binary people and stuff so yeah if you want a clean cut explanation of the self imposed rules, but even if it didn't fit very well its still entirely about what makes you comfortable. It doesn't really matter what a bunch of strangers on the internet say, your sexuality is something that's personal to you and if you feel comfortable classifying your sexuality as lesbian then who gives a shit what the "rules" are.