Messages from strangers

Crumpet 5/19/2024 01:19 pm 452

Just a reminder that you should never receive any messages from strangers on here which say anything like the below:

- Let's date
- Let's be more than friends
- Send me photos of yourself
- You have a nice body

This is predatory. This can be grooming. This isn't a dating site and strangers should never be trying to date you on here. You don't know who you are talking to. We once had a man in his mid-late 20s who was pretending to be 18.

These people are really good at making you feel loved and special - but I guarantee that most of them are doing the same thing to 10 other people. They are taking advantage of you.

If you want to date, do it in real life. Do it at school, or the mall, or concerts, or interest-based clubs. If you absolutely MUST meet people online, at least do it on a proper dating site or app which has more stringent safety measures and age restrictions in place. A bead website is not the place for this type of activity.

If you get a message from someone you don't know which strikes you as strange or seems like they are flirting with you, please report the message to moderators by clicking the "Report" link on the bottom right of the offending message.

I am bringing this up because we recently had someone who was doing this to lots of different people. Peanut flagged them up. Many thanks to Peanut.


I am monitoring what I can. I am going to be checking in regularly. Block people if you are not sure and you do not already have an established friendship and someone messages you about being their partner or anything.

Better safe than sorry kids. Message me and report immediately if you have concerns. 6356c97617aab_bread1.gif

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May 22, 2024 6:15 pm


May 22, 2024 5:15 pm

@EsmEraY_SouL: pretty sure.

May 22, 2024 5:13 pm

@Peanut: ehh theyre back?? w04

May 22, 2024 5:09 pm

Pretty sure they are back kids. Please be safe yall

May 22, 2024 5:07 pm

voost 1!!!

May 20, 2024 8:06 am


May 20, 2024 5:56 am

peanut is a great moderator in all honesty..
and people who do that are just disgusting, and that has happened to me before a few times, and I blocked and reported them. So like you said, if someone starts flirting with you in a serious way, please do block and report them..
I don't have much to say I'm just boosting.

May 20, 2024 4:50 am

@Lawlight: yea the 1 that reached out to me said they wouldnt date minors then when i told them i was, they just said "thats a real shame" & carried convo like nothing happened

May 20, 2024 12:07 am

Yes, their bio said that they were 19 but I have no idea if they actually are or not. Please be vigilant and trust your gut if something doesn’t seem quite right. Report anything which seems remotely unsettling

I know a lot of people don’t want to be a “snitch” and report this type of activity, but people’s safety is involved here so it’s the right thing to do.

May 19, 2024 8:17 pm

@EsmEraY_SouL: i think the same person reached out to me too, they said in their bio they were 19 and that they wouldn't date minors but then reached out to me and a mutual of mine shock