help please (why gender... WHY?)

lyyric_c 5/17/2023 11:37 am 487

soooooo i identify as trans (FTM) non-binary and recently i've been noticing that my gender is VERY fluid...

i just have so many questions

can i identify as trans, genderfluid AND non-binary? am i still valid if i identify as two "genders"? is it disrespectful of me to do that? is it rude of me to "horde" genders? is it possible for me to use "he/they/she" pronouns if i do identify as trans, genderfluid and non-binary? do i have to act a certain way to "pass"? do i have to do things a certain thing to identify as said genders and to be valid?

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Mama_WeAllGo2Hell
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May 17, 2023 11:40 am

yes. this is completely valid. plus "genderhoarder" is actually a thing, i'd recommend you do research on that :]

Ary
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May 17, 2023 11:41 am

gender is so confusing u can identify as anything you want lol there are so many ways to express gender so it doesn't matter how you identify as long as ur comfortable with it dont let the transphobes tell you otherwise

lyyric_c
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May 17, 2023 12:00 pm

@xXbatzXx: ohhh okay!! i've heard of it before but i didn't really look into it

xXOurLadyOfSorrowsXx
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May 17, 2023 12:44 pm

ugh, i had the same struggle as you a few years ago, it gave me such a headache to think about that now i just identify as genderqueer.

you can identify as two or more genders, theres actually labels for them! bigender for two, trigender for three, and pangender for 4+ or all the genders.

tbh you can use any pronouns, it really doesnt matter. i think pronouns are like a secondary name. it doesnt matter what your gender is, its about which set of pronouns you feel most comfortable with/like the best.

you absolutely do not need to act a certain way to pass. just be yourself! as long as you know what you are, and you look the way you want to look, thats all that matters dont let anyone invalidate you because you dont "look enough like your gender"! im afab and female-presenting (long hair, no binder), that doesnt make me any less genderqueer than the next genqr person.

the only things you need to do to identify as a certain gender and be valid is to, well, be that gender! if you feel like a certain label or set of labels fit then thats all you need.

if you want, i suggest researching the labels i mentioned before (bigender, trigender, pangender, and genderqueer) if any of them interest you or if you think you may be them

Phosfate
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May 17, 2023 12:46 pm

I've got a bunch of genders I'm not using. I'll leave them out on the porch.

Bloodborne
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May 17, 2023 12:47 pm

yk from personal experience, youll feel a LOT better if u just...dont use labelsjust identify as..a silly creature. a silly creature dressing as a silly creature that looks like a silly creature