Pls help- (Not kandi related, just advice in general) (Somewhat serious??)

xXJustJoking8P 4/7/2022 02:16 pm 1132

Ok woo I saw someone ask for like life advice here before and normally I wouldn't do that on kANDIPATTERNS.COM but my issue is pretty venial imo so I think it's cool if I do? Lol?
Bro, how do you stop worrying about what people think of you?? It's literally been ruining everything for me like I'm so tired about worrying if this opinion is going to make people h8 me cuz it's a "Hot take" or "Problematic" like I'm always compromising my opinions just so some people who probably spend 99% of their time on Twitter don't h8 me and I'm so tired of it like I just want to stop caring and just live but I'm always compromising my opinions and sugarcoating them just so ppl like me and it's literally so mentally taxing like fr- But this is getting vent-y- Just, how do you stop caring?? It's literally been ruining my life trying to fit everyone's "I wouldn't cancel you" mold-

Just to make this less me centric uh- What's your favorite ice cream flavor too?-

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Apr 7, 2022 2:31 pm

chocolate mint tongue

Apr 7, 2022 2:36 pm

cookies and cream, chocolate, mint oreo, and cookie dough >>>>

Apr 7, 2022 2:39 pm

personally i just dropped social media. it really made me realize how useless it is besides for making friends. twitter is a nasty cesspool of opinions that will never truly matter. also learning that not everything about me needs to be shared, you don't Have to be sharing all these opinions with people. if you drop social media it will really help. i only use kandipatterns, snapchat and discord to make and communicate with friends. don't worry so much about sharing Everything you have to say with random strangers

Apr 7, 2022 2:41 pm

@vamp1re_v0m1t: Thank you, that was rlly helpful! Only problem is that kandipatterns is the main issue x_x All the politics, talk of cancelled ppl that I feel like were cancelled for dumb reasons but everyone else agrees with the cancelling...
Holy shit, that felt good to type, this is one of the first times I've admitted to my un-sugarcoated opinion kao happy But ya, there's some ppl on this site who actually like me and I'd hate to just go poof on them .-.

Apr 7, 2022 3:00 pm

(CW: religious trauma mention)

my advice is maybe keep your religious opinions off here. from what i can tell a lot of ppl here seem to have religious trauma and i wouldnt risk it. (bolded bc this answers your question.)

though from what ive seen of you, most of your hot takes are fairly harmless??? ill admit you can be a bit harsh sometimes but most of your threads have been about alternative fashion hot takes, and at the end of the day that doesn't actively harm anyone. sure you might slightly offend a few people and you might have a few people disagree, but imo as long as you aren't being a straight up bully, a bigot, or supporting bad people or illegal activities then its fine. i highly doubt anyone is gonna be on their floor sobbing over something like (as an example) "chocolate is better than vanilla!". but if they are then thats on them for being sensitive, and in that case they should probably just get off the internet or at least stay out of spaces where people openly communicate with others.

also yeah i feel you dude. literally every mainstream social media is garbage. stay off twitter unless you want to be enraged at the pure stupidity. /hj

(p.s: cheesecake ice cream!!!!! so so good rainbowsmile)

Apr 7, 2022 3:03 pm

littlerally same I feel the same way tbh idek what advice to give bc Ik myself lol

Apr 7, 2022 3:06 pm

@vamp1re_v0m1t: yeah I've gotten off of alot mainstream sites I still have twitch discord, reddit,Pinterest, tumbler and YouTube (ofc) but I've turned off notifications so I don't feel pressured to check every notification and that's helped me out alot,most of those I just use to promote my etsy shop

Apr 7, 2022 3:11 pm

@junatehrobot: Ya, sorry, I thought just mentioning it wouldn't be too bad but I guess me mentioning it whilst kinda venting is kind of upsetting

Ya, I try not to be harsh and I hate it when I am- I mean, all of the hot takes I've said here aren't really like- All of my opinions, y'know? Like, there's some I just don't talk about here (Some I don't even tell... Anyone-) cause I know people would ACTUALLY hate me (See my reply to Vampire Vomit) and it's been really mentally taxxing x_x I dunno I can't really go into detail-detail just flat out in a thread comment section but- Y'know-

(I've never had it before, sounds fancy doe :0 My favs vanilla with sprinkles! Basic I know X'DD)

Apr 7, 2022 3:11 pm
@Z0mbie_gh0st: Oh really? Well I'm rlly sorry you've been going through that too! Maybe we can both learn something from the replies ;v;
Apr 7, 2022 3:13 pm
@Z0mbie_gh0st: Same, I used to have a Twitter but it was literally so horrible to keep x_x