help me - gender crisis

_n0t_sur3_ 5/30/2021 04:07 pm 871

Man oh man oh man oh man

So i was born a female
Im a cis female - or am i?

I have considered being trans, but i dont think i am because i dont have dysphoria 25/8 like trans people do. Only in some cases (for ex, wearing a dress)

I DO like being a female, only about 30-40% of the time
i feel more like a man
but i also feel like a female

im not nb because i dont like they/them pronouns. Im fine with them if people dont know my pronouns, but i dont want to be called a they all the time

that also rules out gender fluid

I dont even know what i am anymore, someone help me

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cakebunny
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Jun 1, 2021 11:58 am

you don't need dysphoria to be trans, and not all nonbinary people use they/them pronouns.

just to keep in mind

Gay
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Jun 1, 2021 11:52 am

not all trans ppl experience dysphoria!

goomygoo
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Jun 1, 2021 11:49 am

Pronouns =/= gender! If you want to use She/He or even just She/Her and be nonbinary you can still be nonbinary. Dysphoria is also a strange case because it feels different for everyone. For example, I'm trans masc and I shave my legs and use makeup. However, I am dysphoric about my voice and my hips. I don't feel dysphoric 24/7 and there are times where I am completely fine with my body.

But going off what others are saying, feeling female and male at once could mean you are bigender. If you think it fits, try it out for a little bit. There is no harm in trying on labels and pronouns until you find yourself.

- A trans nonbinary person that took 5 years to figure out his identity.

kandibangz
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May 31, 2021 3:05 pm

@_n0t_sur3_: that sounds more like being a masculine girl, but i don't know you well enough to be certain.
if you're not feeling debilitating dysphoria, i'd suggest you don't fret about it too much and just have fun being you

bonzi
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May 31, 2021 8:46 am

hm, a lot of other people are saying bigender, so you could possibly be that! or maybe you are girlflux. But its all up to you! Only you can determine your gender

junathenobody
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May 31, 2021 6:42 am

hmmm... if you feel both male and female, maybe bigender?

andrewshotboyfriend
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May 31, 2021 5:51 am

you dont need they/them prnz to be an enby nor do you need constant / any dysphoria to be trans

pronouns =/= to gender! you could use he / she and be an enby! pronouns are just an extention of how you feel about yourself - thats why a lot of people use neo and / or xeno pronouns

if youre not happy / comfortable with the terms non-binary or genderfluid there are terms like bigender, neo / xeno genders, and many others!

you could also just be a masculine girl who doesnt like being seen as feminine

_n0t_sur3_
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May 31, 2021 5:36 am

@kandibangz: more as being seen as femine

kandibangz
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May 30, 2021 11:52 pm

i have a lot of thoughts on this but don't wanna ramble, so here's a question:
does your discomfort come from being seen as feminine or from being seen as female?

doublezero
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May 30, 2021 4:58 pm

@_n0t_sur3_: Ofc!

help me - gender crisis

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