Can I be les and still like a guy?

ems_ 4/23/2023 04:42 pm 341

I’ve been les for a long time, I’ve never really liked any guys but I recently developed a big crush on a guy HELP

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50_shadez_of_green
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Apr 26, 2023 2:35 pm

if you have any romantic attraction to dudes, then maybe you might not be a lesbian

then again, people absolutely fluctuate so i would say be as curious as you want

i had a similar experience (im gae so kinda the opposite xD) and i ended up realizing that i wasnt able to have that romantic connection, if that helps

heckarockstick
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Apr 26, 2023 2:19 pm

just call urself bi

capn
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Apr 26, 2023 1:32 pm

life is so beautiful bro you can do whatever you want forever

Phosfate
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Apr 24, 2023 1:45 pm

Totally. The short version, in the words of a lestastic bud of mine is, "Everybody's allowed at least one guy they'd change teams for." If you're of a certain generation, it's often David Tennant.

vampirefir
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Apr 24, 2023 1:39 pm

labels aren't precise, use whatever you want. eg, aro people can occasionally experience romantic attraction and they're still aro.

generally, the definition of lesbian is "woman/woman aligned/not man person who is attracted to other women/women aligned/not men people" but things are complicated lol. just go w/ whatever fits u best.

also the split attraction model is used by some- u can have a different sexual vs romantic attractions.

Strawberry_BroStrider
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Apr 24, 2023 5:08 am

who even cares bro, im a gay man and ive been in a relationship with a nonbinary woman for like 4 years! also kinda maybe have something pseudo-romantic-queerplatonic thing going on with a lesbian/trixic person, again, as a gay man who is gay and a man. sexuality is weird and fluid! use whatever labels you want. at the end of the day, labels are just a quick and dirty way to describe yourself, not a box you have to fit perfectly in all the time.

Sleepy_Loss
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Apr 24, 2023 4:13 am

lesbian here!

it's a pretty tricky subject. i think it really depends on the type of attraction? if you like this guy, but it's a queer-platonic or aesthetic attraction, then yes, absolutely you're still a lesbian.

if it's a situation where you are attracted to him romantically or sexually, and can see yourself in a happy relationship with a man, (or other men in the future) then you probably aren't a lesbian?

it's absolutely okay to be wrong about labels, and there is no shame in it. i'd ask yourself about the type of attraction you're experiencing, then go from there.

RaverKandi_PizzaPup
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Apr 24, 2023 3:54 am

les as in lesbian?

if that's the case then no. A lesbian is identified as a woman (or non man/masc aligned) who lokes women (or femme aligned people)

of course, there are plenty of other lables and you don't need to label yourself if you don't like to

edit: why the thumbs down?I'm just defining what a lesbian is-

plurzombie
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Apr 24, 2023 3:05 am

In my thoughts? Absolutely! Labels are wacky, and it's just liking who u like!! If someone tries to tell u otherwise, they don't have ur unique experience :3

Lord_Cookie
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Apr 24, 2023 12:45 am

yeah! queer labels are always wacky, its fine man - algae

Can I be les and still like a guy?

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