can someone explain this to me?

livvvyloaf 2/26/2023 02:43 pm 519

hi there yall. i was wondering if anyone can explain xenogenders to me. im very confused as to what they are. are they valid? if so (or not ) , please tell me why. thanks!

10 Replies

Sorry, you are unable to reply. If the thread is still open, you might have been blocked from commenting due to spam or abuse, or we might not have been able to verify that you are a real account. Try updating your profile and interacting more on the site. There are greater restrictions on forum comments due to spam. Spam comments will still not be published, even for verified accounts

Please log in to comment

Displaying 1-10 of 10 comments

Sort by:

Date

Feellicks
Member

Feb 27, 2023 12:52 pm

@Strawberry_BroStrider: thank you for taking the time to explain this im learning so much from this thread !!

Strawberry_BroStrider
Member

Feb 27, 2023 5:59 am

@SorbetMango111: they aren't made for neurodivergent people, actually! that's a very common misconception. they're just commonly used by neurodiverse folks. xenogenders are just basically an experience with gender that is outside the realm of human understandings of gender. many neurodivergent people feel as though they are outside the human experience with everything, which is partly why it's common in our communities, but they are not made for us specifically. /info

genders specifically for neurodivergent people are called neurogenders, which are actually a completely different subcategory of "alternative gender experiences". (i don't mean to make this more complex than it has to be, the mogai community is just one that is very close to me and this kinda thing feels important)

Strawberry_BroStrider
Member

Feb 27, 2023 5:55 am

if you need someone else to tell you if something's valid, there might be a problem with the way we think about. stuff. on the internet. here is a pretty decent carrd explaining xenogenders and why people might identify with them.

SorbetMango111
Member

Feb 27, 2023 3:17 am

Xenogenders are genders made for neurodivergent people (but some can be used by everyone) to explain how their gender feels!! Not everyone feels completely connected to the concept of having a gender and that’s where Xenogenders come in!! They can explain how their alternative gender feels like for someone!!

Example; I’m Pupgender!! This doesn’t mean that I’m literally a dog/pup, but it means I feel like my gender can be explained as puppy-like and energized, sweet and innocent!!

Obviously I think they’re valid because they help me feel more comfortable with who I am and explain how I my gender feels like :3

I hope this helped!

Feellicks
Member

Feb 26, 2023 8:34 pm

@jamboscrimblo: thank you for taking the time to explain this. I've been sort of confused about it and had no idea where to even look for information on it

Feellicks
Member

Feb 26, 2023 8:32 pm

a bit off topic, but..

I'm an adult and I've noticed it's mostly younger gen Z kids that tend to identify themselves with xenogenders. (not that adults can't too!!) it seems similar to otherkin sort of?

I personally don't fully understand it and feel a little out of the loop too, but it's so interesting to me and I love seeing people being able to express themselves in these ways and I'm fully on board with it

I've found you don't have to understand everything in life to support the people around you, but I think your curiosity and interest in learning is so special and beautiful in its own way. we are so lucky to be living in this Era.

thank you for this thread and thank you to everyone who comments to educate us!!!

jamboscrimblo
Member

Feb 26, 2023 7:31 pm

The simplest way I can explain it is a descriptor of someone’s gender that is more abstract, & relates to a thing or a concept. Xenogender users may identify with other genders as well, or solely said xenogenders. For example, someone can identify as male while also having a xenogender be part of their identity. From what I’ve seen, their meanings can either be literal or very abstract. Someone who is catgender may literally identify with “cat” being their gender, while someone else may identify with their gender just being catlike in some way.

I think the concept of gender envy also ties into xenogenders. Certain concepts or things may make someone feel more affirmed in their gender for whatever reason, so they incorporate into their identity.

Most people say that they are made for neurodivergent (usually autistic or adhd) people, & while it seems the vast majority of xenogender users are neurodivergent I think that everyone should be allowed to use them if they find comfort in them.

Are they valid? I don’t think anyone has a place to say wether they are or are not. How someone identifies isn’t anyone else’s business, however, I personally do not have a problem with them & support them. I think it’s great that people are coming up with terms to make themselves feel comfortable in their identities. The biggest thing I see people complain about it how xenogenders will make people not take the trans community seriously, but the thing is people will still be transphobic whether or not xenogender users exist.

xXToasted_TreasureXx
Member

Feb 26, 2023 5:50 pm

it’s for nd people! Nd people can’t quite grasp the concept of gender sometimes so they choose to label what they consider their gender. Hope this helps somewhat

rennylars
Member

Feb 26, 2023 4:09 pm

as far as i know, xenogenders are genders based around a thing, concept, or interest someone likes. i think they're valid, some of my friends have xenogenders, and it's just like, a new way to express yourself yknow?

wetxhands
Member

Feb 26, 2023 4:03 pm

I just made a thread about this, I’m also very confused

can someone explain this to me?

10 Replies

Login / Register

Active Threads

Random Pattern