So I have a Friend

Deleted Account 10/21/2012 07:09 am 2122

And he has been a raver for a while but I can't rave yet. He tells me that I shouldn't make kandi If I don't rave and that I shouldn't say PLUR because I don't know what it's about if I don't rave. Constantly he will break some of the bracelets on my arms singles, doubles, even a cuff once , if I hang out with him and i am wearing any. Yet I make pretty good quality kandi and he is always asking me to make him some. I don't know what to do because he has broken some of my favorite pieces but he is one of my really good friends

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FunSize
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Jul 7, 2013 3:54 am

'good friend' my ass! if he's breaking ur kandi that u worked so hard on and then has he nerve to ask u for some he is not a friend of yours.

Beck
Member

Jul 5, 2013 8:20 am

I'm sorry but it doesn't sounds like he isn't a very good friend at all when he disrespects you and destroys your kandi. I'm not sure if he really understands what plur is considering how he is treating you. This is just me, but I'd recommend that you should cut ties with this person. This person is not worth getting your feelings hurt over.

Cami_and_Fawn
Member

Jul 4, 2013 10:53 pm

I am not a raver and I just recently found out what PLUR stands for. yes I actually had to google it, but whatever. Talk to him about it and if he still doesn't respect you enough to respect your things then he isn't a true friend and doesn't deserve to stay by your side. My wife doesn't rave either, but she loves music and she loves making all the beaded things (I just make the patterns). But stay true to the PLUR on your end and keep doing what you're doing. I've seen what you can make and you're really great for just starting out. But don't let him bully you. It isn't right. but stay true to yourself and know that whether or not he will stand by your side, you have all of us here on kandipatterns and all of your other friends.

Rayven
Member

Jul 4, 2013 5:20 pm

Being a Kandi kid these days goes well beyond the Rave scene and the fact that you have a friend that would claim to be a raver of any caliber and break your Kandi, daring to say you don't understand the meaning doesn't quite understand the meaning of PLUR(R) themselves. I can't really understand the level of friendship but if you have expressed your unhappiness to him at breaking your work and he still does it? I would seriously reconsider the friendship. He may just be using you for your skills and telling his raver friends it was his work if he doesn't want you to wear it. On the other hand, he's still discriminating against you for your age. You can't be a raver because your to young to go? As long as you love the music how can you go wrong?

Don't let a 'friend' hurt you. Its totally not cool!

Expired_Gummybears
Guest

Jul 2, 2013 8:38 pm

Peace love unity respect. Hes obviously lacking suck qualities. I wouldnt so much as call him a friend if hes going to pound on you about the fact that you have and make kandi and that you shouldnt because you cant and dont go to raves. But you dont have to go to a rave club to rave?? I have rave cds. And i know many people my age older and younger who dont go to raves but wear kandi and express plur. This guy seriously wouldnt be as close a friend as he once was to me anymore if he did that to me.

Nveryioth
Member

Jul 2, 2013 8:31 pm

I would sit down and have a conversation with him about how you feel. If he continues to break your kandi after you tell him you are not happy with his actions, then he is not a true friend and you should not tolerate this, you don't deserve it, and should stop talking to him all together. I'm so sorry, this must be hard. I have had a problem like this before, and it is tough. I hope you guys work this out.

Halodiablo
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Nov 2, 2012 3:49 pm

lol first off this guy need to stfu and not fuck with ur stuff. kandi is rave yes, there are many good reasons y its a rave thing. and theres more to it than "being made with love and friendship". its been rave culture for 20+yrs now and isnt going to change , but at the sme time doesnt give him or anyone else the right to disrespect u or anything u do. do what makes u happy ^.^

dezdez
Guest

Oct 30, 2012 10:41 pm

That's sad... A lot of love goes into kandi whether you rave or not...he sounds like a bad friend...but don't let him stop u

SycoSquirl
Old School Member

Oct 30, 2012 10:38 pm

drop him. If he was a true raver he wouldnt be such an asshole. He obviously doesnt understand PLUR. Dont bother being friends with him and just move on and be yourself. You dont need friends like that.

KThuy
Member

Oct 30, 2012 5:13 pm

well first of all tell him hey you been breaking my braclets (or such) and if you want me to make something for you than you have to stop breaking mine in return .. try to talk about it if he's your good friend he would under stand. anyways best of wishes

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