Okay i'm going to try and keep this as kid friendly as possible but i understand if it gets deleted. I'm just confused and in need of advice so sorry it's gonna be a lil long. Also i know this isn't the best place to ask but honestly i've only got this or facebook and i don't need to open those cans of worms before i've figured it out
Right now i'm currently a 21 year old female and i've never drank, smoked done drugs or anything of that nature. My home life is really weird my mom and dad got divorced in my late elementary school years and had only married because well they got pregnant. Since then short of a few brief stints my family has lived in one house and both parents have remarried. So i've had 4 parents for a long time all in 1 roof. At the end of High school my father came out to me and told me he loves me and the fact that i was born but that he was/is transgender (meaning man to woman) and she has already made good process on her transition, (my step mom is supportive and so am i).
However thats not my issue/concern. I've always grown up in a household where we treat all people equally and grew up with the views that love is love who we love has no bearing so long as they are capable of understanding and consenting to being loved back. I've always been incredibly tomboyish, with nearly no mind of the so called "rules of fashion" and have always worn what made me happy, I prefer to keep my haair really hort not liking how it gets in the way when its long. I'm a video gamer , Anime nerd, who loves cooking and quite frankly tends to push herself to keep up with the men when it comes to work related issues because the phrase "let a man do that" sends me off on a tirade (like Edward Elric when people call him short) I have the ability to put on "high class" when needed but don't like it. My mother often points out attractive males for me or tried assuming a male that i view as a friend and discuss video games with would make a good boyfriend. I often get mad at her for the simple fact that i want to find love in my own time and place. I have had 3 boyfriends since my freshman year of high school and honestly the experience i had with them was a wee bit odd. The last boyfriend i had we lasted between 6 and 7 months within the past year honestly i know we got together because of my cooking skill but i never felt love or passion. When he did something that "merited a boy's will be boys" quote from my mother it set me off on a tirade because never got how it was fair.
Personally i've always told myself that love is love and i don't know who i will fall in love with but when i do i'll know i;ve never put gender labels on love. I've had some friends in the past comment that only lesbians dig short hair and that given my attitudes they couldn't see how i wasn't looking for a girlfriend. The other day i went to the store with my mother after having gone to the doctor i was having something painful done to me so i opted to dress in lazy comfortable clothes which consisted of black colored mens sweat pants , a black tank top and a 3/4 sleeve graphic print over shirt i only wore at my mothers insitsing that women don't wear "wife beaters" without something else overtop of it. We wound up running an unexpected errand afterwards before getting dinner and needless to say i wound up getting flirted with by someone of the same sex to whom i thought was really cute and could've seen myself dating them and my mother wouldn't stop gushing about it and making "silly jokes" telling my dad to ask my about (name) and how they were doing.
Needlesss to say after some lectures on how girls were "better" than boys i was left to my own devices and and i began dwelling on thoughts that have been coming up in my head for the past few months now (since getting into a nasty nasty fight with a particular male friend over a female who was using him) I had started thinking that relationships with males other than friendship was pointless since i was overall very displeased with how the bulk of them treated me and the fact i couldn't find a strong bond/attracting point (occasionally i'd think one was cute if they had long hair that was well kept, for some reason i prefer long hair on men (i guess anime/kpop did it)) Needless to say i cannot seam to figure my brain out so i tried going through google search on how to tell if i was attracted to women but sadly everything i found was of no help or was ridiculously narrow minded/stupid for example "do you think (supermodel) is hot? or does the thought of kissing a man make you want to puke? Can anyone offer me a solid site to hopefully give me better answers or a forum site . The only person who can figure me out is me however i think that talking to someone might help me understand my feelings.
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