tips for coming out?

WILLliam_o7 10/22/2022 04:24 pm 322

this has been bothering me so much, we went to the pumpkin patch today and my grandmas friend was also there so they sat and talked, the mom was wearing a shirt that said 'protect trans kids' and what they were talking about was about how her daughter transitioned, i wanna tell my family so badd but it seems impossible, any tips?

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RaverKandi_PizzaPup
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Oct 25, 2022 5:18 am

Just try not to overthink things. When I came out it was an accident and I was panicking so bad. I'm fine tho nothing bd happened thankfully.

pawbean
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Oct 25, 2022 5:12 am

everyone else gave pretty good advice but i wanted to add you don't have to come out yet and if you aren't 100% sure that it's safe for you to, don't.

if you feel like your family will most likely be accepting then thats okay , go ahead! but if not please be safe and don't come out if you're in an environment that could be harmful.

c00d
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Oct 25, 2022 4:52 am

@FL1NT_1Z_D34D: some people get offended by the letter or smth, i tried doing that and man they did not like it. whatsoever + they r probably going to want to have a conversation about it anyways

best of luck to u dude

FL1NT_1Z_D34D
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Oct 24, 2022 10:25 am

if you cant tell them by speaking, you can leave them a note or letter!! juzt leave it somewhere they'll notice & write important on the front in big text so they'll see it!! also dont feel like you HAVE 2 come out, take your time & come out when you're ready!! <3

jamboscrimblo
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Oct 23, 2022 8:10 pm

One piece of advice I have to give is let them know that you are transitioning for yourself, not anyone else. You’re not being influenced by other people, or trying to give them a hard time by rejecting the name they gave you & wanting to use a different one/different pronouns. Depending on how accepting they are from the start, this may not even be an issue, but it’s still a good thing to put emphasis on to show that this is something you are doing to live authentically as your true self. Good luck coming out, I hope it all goes well!!

tawny
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Oct 22, 2022 6:49 pm

try and make a plan of what you wanna say, and prepare answers for any questions they're going to have, trust me it will help a lot

i didnt have one when i came out and it was hard to know what to say, which made things worse and more stressful than what it wouldve been if i had planned out how and what i was gonna say

also depending on how your parents are they may ask a lot of hard questions like " how did you know you were trans " or other hard questions, idk if your parents are like that but i would still recomend preparing for a lot of hard questions

lastly just know that its most likely not then trying to be transphobic if they ask that type of question, they're just confused about it, + depending on their age it could be a newer thing to them so try not to take it as them implying that your faking it becuase thats most likely not whats happening

anyways i hope everything goes good for you

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