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trans advice ? :(

Deleted Account 6/14/2022 07:45 pm 571

have you've came out to ur parents as trans/non-binary - and if you've have (and they were supportive) how do i do it ? my dad found out i was trans (well- this was couple of months ago, he found out i wanted to be male and from then he's been using masc labels for me- i dont mind it since im questioning if i could be demiboy and agender) i want to change my legal name (my legal name is still my deadname) and buy a real binder (using my crappy unwashed homemade binder) i prefer writing things down rather than talking face to face since it makes me uncomfy, and i usually dont talk all that much- i kinda need help on what to say

(EDIT: i made the letter and printed it out during school, i also talked to a counselor. my science teacher and i will have my dad after school and explain what i want during that. i feel rlly close to my science teacher and having somebody w/ me would make things a LOT easier)

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Z0mbie_gh0st
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Jun 15, 2022 2:54 pm

I'd recommend u leave him a note with your concerns and express to him (in the note ofc) that talking in person makes you uncomfortable and you feel like you can better express yourself through a note, hope this helps!

Daydreamer
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Jun 15, 2022 1:53 pm

Honestly I'm not trans so I can't really relate much- but if your dad is trying his best to gender you correctly and all that I'm sure he'll understand all this, and if you have a hard time talking face to face you could just leave him a note, explaining that you have a hard time but you were wondering if you can get this all done, I mean obviously it won't happen over night but I'm sure your dad will try

jamboscrimblo
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Jun 15, 2022 11:57 am

I think writing it down would be best if you think that will help you! As for what to say, maybe you can express to him that changing your legal and getting a binder would make you feel much more comfortable with yourself. Some parents may not want their kids to legally change their name until they’re an adult, but it sounds like your dad is supportive and will hopefully at least let you get a binder. You can maybe show him that you know how to stay safe using it (and follow through with being safe using it!!) if he’s worried it could be harmful. If you can’t get your name legally changed just yet, you can maybe see if he would be fine with talking to your school so that they call you by your chosen name instead if they aren’t already.

d3spa1r_d0ll
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Jun 14, 2022 7:53 pm

its gr8 that ur dad is understanding! maybe try leaving a letter or sending a text message with what u wanna say. it seems like it'll go gr8. i believe in u!!!

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trans advice ? :(

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