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when i first heard the label nonbinary i knew that suited me better than a guy or girl then when i looked into more of the labels i found agender.i mean i never really cared about gender. i dont think i really understand how people feel a certain gender. i was always just, me.

i think ive always kind of been not masculine but kind of boy-ish? like feminine but more into things that were more meant for little boys lol x^3 i went thru a bunch of labels revolving around that stuff like i thought i was genderfluid, trans masc, demiboy, and i finally settled on demigirl a few months ago. it took me a while to figure out the difference between interests and gender but once i did figure it out i started feeling rlly good ab my gender ^_^

I had always been fascinated with androgyny, it all started with seeing the "bulletproof" music video in a mall food court when I was like 9 years old. Then I cut my hair short in 8th grade and had my "I'm not like other girls" phase. LOVED it when people mistook me for a boy. When I got to highschool I tried to fit in a little more and grew my hair back out to fit in with the girls again. In highschool I met a transgender person for the first time, which made me realise that people don't have to stay their assigned gender at birth. It was once I met him I started deconstructing a lot of internalized and externalized homo- and transphobia that growing up in a religious setting had taught me. When I started college I met a nonbinary person, who went by they/he pronouns. After talking to them I realized I related to a lot of their feelings about gender, but I repressed that because I was dating a very LGBT-phobic person and didn't want to lose that relationship. After I broke up with that person, I felt a lot freer to experiment with gender. I cut my hair very short again, found a new friend group that was mostly LGBT people, and had my friends call me a different name and use they/them for me, and it just felt right. One of my good friends even chose my name for me in 2019 and I plan on changing it legally as soon as I'm able. Currently I use the labels genderqueer, nonbinary, and transmasc in relation to my gender.

(disclaimer, I know not all nonbinary people need to present androgynously, however that's the way I've always felt most comfortable presenting and I feel that my gender experience has strong tries to androgyny.)

I used to think I was always non binary and used they/them for a long time even tho they didn't seem like they fit me right until I met my gf (now ex :] ) and she called me a he accidentally and I finally knew I eas trans and he/him were the ones for me

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