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LustSans_irl 8/22/2023 01:39 pm 396

okay so idk if i'm mlm anymore cuz theres this one girl that i like but idk if its in a friend way or a crush way and this is the first time i liked a girl so idk if its just a friend way but ya, ive only ever liked men too so this was a first time. :p i'm so confused rn

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LustSans_irl
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Aug 23, 2023 5:04 am

@psymob: this helped a lot actually!! thank you a lot!!

psymob
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Aug 22, 2023 8:03 pm

tbh being a girl could always be a temporary condition for anyone (this is a joke but trans rights)

everyone else has already said some pretty insightful things but... everyone experiences attraction differently and some people experience it fluidly at different points in their life. that's pretty normal, i think.

exploring your identity is always a bit complicated and i think a lot of people are afraid of getting it "wrong." even if you do experiment with a certain label and it turns out it doesn't fit you later, you'll come away from it with a better understanding of yourself!

just don't get stuck trying to justify the way you think or feel (to yourself or others) bcus it just kinda makes you feel miserable.

no idea if this makes sense (disorganized brain rn) but i hope it helps a little. o/

LustSans_irl
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Aug 22, 2023 4:00 pm

@vampirefir: okay!!

vampirefir
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Aug 22, 2023 3:55 pm

Labels aren't boxes, be free and use whatever. I could put a CANNED PEAS label on my shirt one day and a THIS DEVICE COMPLIES WITH RADIO INTERFERENCE LAWS sticker the next. Be you and love who you love, be kind to others and it'll work out.

LustSans_irl
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Aug 22, 2023 3:41 pm

@Pinky: aight

LustSans_irl
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Aug 22, 2023 3:41 pm

@plurzombie: thank uuu

plurzombie
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Aug 22, 2023 3:10 pm

I think if it's really one-off it may not matter too much, but also labels are just really fuccy in general ;pp uhhh but yeah, dont feel like your whole identity has to change because its a one-off attraction for the time being, and if you identifying as mlm keeps you comfortable then keep doin it, but also changing ur label isnt a bad thing, so basically, its up to you, attraction is unique and yes very confusing

Pinky
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Aug 22, 2023 3:06 pm

@LustSans_IRLL: idkkk man- maybe spend some time with her and see if u get butterflies? /nm

LustSans_irl
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Aug 22, 2023 2:09 pm

@Pinky: shes super duper nice and really sweet and i love her sm, i say i love you a lot to her and idk if i say it platonicly or not, but i always think of her a lot so i think i have a crush on her? ive dated girls b4 but i always broke up w/ them cuz i didn't feel a connection so idk if i really do like her or if i'm just really happy to be her friend. this is so weird :'3

Pinky
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Aug 22, 2023 1:50 pm

heyyyy lesbian here who had a bi phase. I feel ur pain. I dated a guy for a couple weeks and then dumped him cause i realized i was a lesbian. I remember the confusion and it sucked. What do you like about her that makes you think you have feelings for her? (This is me trying to help sorry idk how to word stuff)

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