going through a gender crisis, label suggestions / discussion / anyone feel the same??
icosa0550 2/23/2024 04:34 pm 644
so i've known i wasn't a girl (im afab) since i was literally old enough to perceive the difference between girls and boys. like it's just been a forever thing and i never thought much about it until i wanted to start changing my appearance and i learned about being trans and yeah.
i use he/him and i'm okay with they/them if i'm presenting feminine. i present as male most of the time, like redneck construction worker male. like half my closet is wrangler jeans, solid color tees, and boots. but the other half of the time i'm either giving masc lesbian (i'm not a lesbian, i've been frequently asked if i am though lmao), or hyper feminine baggy sweater boho girl or goth chick depending on the vibe that day. like theres a very large flux in how i present and it's all based on the day. like some days i wake up and you couldn't waterboard me into presenting fem. i've never had an issue with this, i just go with the vibe and it's fine. the dressing hyper feminine is a fairly recent development and i've been getting lots of questions about it. like "i thought you were a boy" or "why do you use he/him if you dress like a girl" and like what do i tell people??? i sometimes say im gender non-conforming or label non-conforming but that doesn't go over well irl.
i've read about all the labels and what they mean and like none of them quite land with me. like demiboy, demiflux, libraflux, maleflux, nonbinary, agender, and genderqueer all sound close but its not quite it. genderqueer feels the closest but like what if i dont have a gender but maybe sometimes its there a little?? and sometimes its masc but im not just male?? but dressing feminine doesn't make me less male?? like in the way that drag queens are still guys yknow
like it's so inconsistent even the labels meant to describe changing genders don' t catch all of it lmao. i cant be the only person that feels like this right?? like idk i feel crazy does anyone know what i'm talking about??
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