yall can skip this its so dumb but my friend told me I should post it on tumblr but I don't have my phone right now, so she told me to post it here because she thinks its news to people????
shes mad bc her girlfriend is trying to tell her there's only one way to have a poly relationship- and shes trying to tell me about different ways as if I haven't been in one before?????? kind of ironic for my situation tho tbh
shes saying there's at least 4 which her 4th explanation is literally just cheating but ill let yall think about that one, and the first 2 are v similar.
the first two ways she told me I agree w tho
1: being in a relationship with multiple people who are ALL dating each other
2: being in a relationship with multiple people who SOME of them are dating (using fake names for an example: jen is dating ron, caleb, mike, and kylie. Ron is dating jen, mike, but not kylie or caleb. Kylie is dating jen and caleb but not mike or ron. So some of them are not dating, but jen is dating all of them.)
3: being in a relationship where you're dating all your partners, but they're all separate and none of them are dating each other (mike dating jen, ron, caleb and kylie but jen, ron, kylie and caleb are not dating any of the others)
4: same as 3, but without having them know about each other to not cause problems... literally cheating if you're dating other people without your partner(s) knowing..
anyway sorry for wasting your time but she was sooo passionate about this- I think she needs tumblr to go vent... but she gets her phone taken more than me lmfao
edit: 4 is meant to be not telling your partner at all that you're dating someone, as to avoid conflict. it can also be getting into a relationship and not being told/not telling them that you're (they're) in a relationship... you wouldn't believe how many times that's happened to me and I just went with it because I didn't know what else to do... you have to at least tell them to start with, so they can make a proper decision or tell you how they feel about it
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