Why you don’t want to be a system (from a system’s perspective)

Saplingsys 11/14/2021 09:41 am 1182

This is an important topic, and it would make my day if you read even some of this. You shouldnt feel forced to read it, but whether you are a singlet or a system, this information is good to know /gen
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We are a (currently undiagnosed) OSDD 1B system of around 54 known alters. We’ve seen an increase in people faking DID/OSDD, and also a horrifying amount of misinformation about DID/OSDD. So, we are going to do a short explanation of why being a system is extremely hard, and why you dont want to be one.

Whether you have DID or OSDD, every alter doesnt have full access to all memories. They might have emotional amnesia or full amnesia for the event. This can make remembering things you learn in school, and even who a close family member is, extremely hard. Since you switch, you dont always get to be fronting, of course. So, you never get to fully experience life on your own, you have to share it with others. Communication within systems is extremely difficult in the beginning, and for some, it always will be. At times, you dont know who is fronting, and who you are as a person. You dissociate for long periods of time. There are MANY more struggles that would take so long to list here. Every day has its own struggles for us systems. Some days are better than others, but some are so bad that you just sit there for hours, wishing you weren’t a system, that you could just be normal.

Systems are frequently told that we are overreacting, or faking our disorders. We are told that we are wrong and uneducated. We are told that we dont have it that bad, or that we dont have it bad enough, to be considered valid. In reality, the people who are spreading these complete lies, are in the wrong.

Systems, you are valid. Everything you go through is valid. You are such unique people. You are all loved by our system, and many others. If you ever need help with anything system related, send us a message, and we will help out as soon as possible.

Thank you so much for reading. If you have questions, send us a message or comment. -Tyler(He/Him) from The Sapling System


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Feb 28, 2024 6:10 pm

I'm a professionally diagnosed schizophrenic individual with DID, I'd like to add onto your thread if that's alright /nm

For anyone who's curious, please do not self-diagnose yourself with DID, as it is an irreversible & harmful decision because there's no proper way of self-diagnosing yourself with DID, and treatment (if sought) is also irreversible. It is always advised to reach out for medical help because DID and any OSDD is a complex and misunderstood topic that a lot of people frequently misconstrue. Throughout my high-school career, I would lash out; I hurt my loved ones, I hurt myself, and found myself in days of unrest.

Tyler is right. Being a system is really, really hard, and some days are easier than others. It isn't as simple as just forgetting things; it's more or less like not remembering any events that've happened in the past few weeks. A friend of mine who's also professionally diagnosed with DID, and has been for a long time, encouraged me to seek medical help. They recounted having to use a map to get around, both high-school and during college. Because of my diagnosis, I'm not allowed to be by myself. I can't drive or be in unfamiliar places. As far as I know, I don't think I can have a job. I'm totally dependent on my caretakers.

It can get easier, though. I promise. I'm grateful to have an amazing support system.

If you think you've been traumatized, please don't be afraid to reach out for help. You are valid. You are not faking, or you haven't "struggled enough". It's never a competition. I wish there were more comforting words I could say. - Damus (It/its)

Feb 28, 2024 4:42 pm

thank u 4 informing me, my friend just found out their a system so ya thxx!!

Feb 28, 2024 4:03 pm

thank you for this! we are an undiagnosed system and we go through all of this stuff and more, but few actually listen to us just because we're not diagnosed yet

-silver

Feb 28, 2024 3:06 pm

Thank you so much for posting this. This is very helpful for someone who doesn't know very much about systems. :3

Feb 28, 2024 3:02 pm

thanks for this!
im not intirally sure if i have it or not but this did help alot<3

Feb 28, 2024 2:58 pm

WE COMPLETELY AGREE!!! As a HCDID system of 200+ (We have a very high splitting rate) , It is very difficult to deal with day to day life- And people like you guys make our lives so much easier by educating those who don't understand- We aspire to be like yall one day and we hope you have an amazing day/night! /gen/pos kao love

Nov 14, 2021 7:03 pm

@Valen_: Thank you!! Im glad I could help. And sure! Osdd is basically DID, but without one of the diagnostic criteria for DID. There are 2 types of OSDD, OSDD 1A and OSDD 1B. In OSDD 1A, its the same as DID, except for each alter is less distinct. Alters are usually more like versions of the host at different time or different ages, rather than fully separate people. In OSDD 1B, its the same as DID, except you dont experience amnesia between alters/between switches! But, each alter is distinct like in DID. I hope this makes sense, and let me know if you want me to explain it more, or explain anything else!

Nov 14, 2021 7:00 pm

@S0ur_K4nd1: Im glad I could help you understand your friend a bit better! And thank you very much, thats always great to hear!!

Nov 14, 2021 6:20 pm

It's so nice that you take the time to educate people like me who don't know much about systems! I'm able to empathize with people a part of systems now and I can only imagine how difficult it can be sometimes, but I want you to know you're valid no matter what <3

Also could you explain the difference between DID and OSDD? I've looked it up several times but I still can't quite understand the difference :/

Nov 14, 2021 5:29 pm

Thank You For Explaining!

As A Singlet That Doesn't Know A Lot bout DID And Systems, This Is Very Helpful! Especially As I Am Able To Understand My Friend Better Who Is Part Of A System!

I Had No Idea That It Was This Hard, And Im Sorry You Are Going Through That. I Know This May Not Mean Much From Me, But You And Your Feelings Are Valid, No Matter What Anyone Says. :] /pos