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yikes (minor language + some caps)

feferipeixes 7/24/2021 08:27 pm 392

hello everyone i saw one of my mutuals invalidate MLM/NBLM relationships what the actual hell
so she is a lesbian and she kinda makes it her whole personality to hate men? it's super harmful to the lesbian community to support/encourage a stereotype like that + demonizing/invalidating liking men is so fucking shitty
i'm not MLM but can MLM (or NBLM) add on to this and tell me your thoughts?

all my men loving buddies out there, YOU'RE AWESOME!!

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Jul 27, 2021 9:16 pm

I almost didn't identify as trans just bc of the amount mlm hating. It was horrifying to see in a community you'd originally thought was very accepting.

Jul 27, 2021 9:02 pm
@inxxiety_: also one other thing; it’s not my fault i’m a male, and it’s not
any other mans fault that they are male either. there’s nothing i absolutely HATE more in life then people being discriminated for things they can not choose, such as race or gender. yes i agree some men are horrible and do awful things but saying ALL men are like that is just as bad as saying ass lesbians want to kill all men. it’s a bad stereotype. there’s going to be bad people in every group, why can’t people understand that

anyways , sorry for kinda going on a rant lol.... just wanted to get my point across

Jul 27, 2021 8:57 pm

i personality don’t like when somebody makes any one thing their whole personality. especially sexuality. plus, every homophobic person i know already thinks that all lesbians want to kill all men or something and i really dislike that because lesbians are cool! and i hate that a few bad people created a whole stereotype which causes a lot of people to get unnecessary hate.

Jul 27, 2021 5:52 pm

omfg these kinds of people disgust me--

just cos' men exist doesn't mean they make it their whole personality to hate lesbians or mlm dont hate on women constantly

not cool :/

Jul 27, 2021 5:11 pm

@BuzzyBoy: yeah they’re always like “I like men unfortunately” like dude stop

Jul 27, 2021 5:07 pm

people like that really rub me the wrong way. same with bisexaul/pansexual woman who make it seem like them liking men is a bad thing or gross

Jul 27, 2021 4:22 pm

wlw/nblw venting about hating men because they are our oppressors/making jokes about not liking men themselves: yay happy
wlw/nblw making jokes about how mlm/nblw are gross/terrible/disgusting for being gay or how liking men in general is bad: nay :/

the amount of people that think that disliking men as a whole means they can antagonize gay/bi men for nothing pisses me off

Jul 27, 2021 2:39 pm

something like this happened on tiktok, there was a mlm/nblm safe space page and wlw and nblw were attacking us in the comments for liking men.

Jul 27, 2021 1:51 pm

Big TERF vibez

Jul 27, 2021 1:46 pm

1 think you are correct as someone who is normally in a wlw (1 only like women and 1'm genderfluid, normally feminine) relationship. Stop invalidating people for just existing- 1 make jokes about hating men but like, don't actually cause harm. - Cookie happy