confidence help :'/

merbyler 5/1/2021 09:30 pm 659

hi! I've been wearing/ making kandi for ab 4 months and it's something I really love. I haven't been to school in person in a year and back then I just tried to blend in w/ everyone else, but I was kind of miserable. I started making kandi as a form of self expression and just started out making singles and wearing those but now I make huge 3d cuffs that I wear often. I think it looks cool, and sometimes I wear a necklace and choker with it. I'm going back to school in Sept. and I plan on wearing kandi and wearing what I want, but I'm also terrifed of being bullied. yeah, I could "tone it down" and wear less kandi and do my makeup normal but that also makes me super uncomfortable. idk, do you guys have any tips??,,

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oceanmeat
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May 2, 2021 11:59 pm

i say you should go for it!! i wear kandi to school pretty much every day, and i’ve never had anyone say anything negative about it to me. in my experience, i either have people tell me they like mine, or they just straight up don’t pay enough attention to me to really take note of the kandi i have on lol. my advice would be to start small with singles or small cuffs at first, just to test the waters a bit, and then move to wearing the ~flashier~ stuff if/when you decide you feel comfortable enough for that!

also, remember that you can always take your kandi off and stick it in your backpack, or your pocket! you have no obligation to wear ur kandi all day long, so take it off if you start to feel uncomfortable <3

Stargirl25
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May 2, 2021 7:11 pm

what i did was i like gradually started wearing more kandi when i went to school

like i started wearing a couple singles, then multistitch cuffs and singles

and little by little people at my school got used to seeing me so they usually don't say anything (if anything most people are really nice and compliment me)

i still get made fun of for the way i dress and act, but its usually from people who look like they bite their toenails and don't wash their legs, so its whatever, just wear what you want bc who cares what other people think of your outfits

fangs
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May 2, 2021 4:07 pm

if they bully you commit war crimes

merbyler
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May 2, 2021 12:18 pm

@Sh4mp00_T4st3s_B4d: That' so smart thank you!! I was worrying ab that a little, we only have 4 minutes to get changed T__T

Sh4mp00_T4st3s_B4d
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May 2, 2021 11:34 am

Personally I think you should just wear the kandi you want! Take factors into consideration like bc of gym maybe wear big cuffs that are easier to take off and less individual singles, but dont worry about what anybody else thinks. If you feel confident wearing kandi, then wear it, I trust that you will look super cool. And the people that are interested in kandi too will probably notice and talk to you, so it’s also a good way of making friends. All in all, just be yourself and wear what makes you happy.

_zombie_xo
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May 2, 2021 10:45 am

Well,, I’m new here, and don’t know much abt kandi, but how I gain confidence is I have to remind myself that I’m quite literally the best dressed one there, and if u wear kandi I know ur cool!! You got this, and don’t worry abt bullies, they’re prolly just not accustomed 2 such cool ppl B

MediocreMyles
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May 2, 2021 9:33 am

Do whatever makes you feel good! i wear kandi to school, but only singles and small cuffs because I'm scared lol. i get a lot of compliments for it and none of my teachers really care! you could also make singles for ur teachers if u want them to shut up and be nice to you lmao

wannabewitch08
Member

May 2, 2021 9:15 am

i wear kandi to school!! usually all that happens for me is i get a lot of people asking me to make some for them lol. personally, everyone at my school is super chill and nobody rlly cares about what you wear (except 4 the teachers) i'd say go for it!! do whatever makes you happy <3

btw if you really wanna make sure your teachers r fine with it, offer to make them something!! or just ask if its okay <3

_n0t_sur3_
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May 2, 2021 9:14 am

im the only on in my school that wears kandi, i dont think anyone stares at me for it or makes fun of me for it, and if they do i dont really care, its not gonna stop me. if it makes you feel happy and feel like yourself, do it.

doublezero
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May 1, 2021 9:48 pm

I think you should wear it. From what you said, it doesn't seem like anything's happened yet, so I don't see why you should be too worried. Also, I don't know you or where you live, but I will personally come and punch anyone who bullies you. Just incase.

confidence help :'/

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