I'm afraid of my dad? help!

KandiGhostcat 10/8/2014 05:40 am 3872

My dad is a good parent and everything, but I am scared of him. I don't really ask help with my homework with him. I think that he gets a little impatient with me. I have high anxiety and I get panic and anxiety attacks. When my dad asks me a question like "did you get your assignment/test back?" I get so anxious and everything that I don't know what to say. I'm scared if I tell him that he'll yell at me or something. I don't know what to do! I know he wants me to do well. The anxious and everything gets worse and worse. I'm scared I might hurt myself or him. What should I do? Should I tell my doctor? I can't tell anyone in my family.

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heyyaMomo
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Oct 9, 2014 4:40 am

Sometimes you just can't tell family members. I dealt with depression and anxiety for almost 6 years of my life (middle school and high school) and although my parents were very supportive of me, I couldn't tell them about a lot of my issues. I did ask my mom if I could go see a therapist, who did not prescribe me any medication. My therapist was just someone I could go see once a week and 'let it all out' so to speak. I've been out of therapy for almost 5 years now, and she taught me a lot of healthy ways to deal with the anxiety and stress I had (and sometimes still do have.) I would definitely recommend seeing if this might be a doable option for you

Forluvofmuffins
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Oct 9, 2014 2:55 am

It's normal to have those types of feelings, you eventually get accustomed to them. And this thing about hurting your self or others is super ridiculous. Like if you we're/are actually going to do those things, you would just do it. However these feelings you are having are completely normal, and won't matter ever again, in fact in 150 years you and every one you know / ever meet will be dead. And you would have already played your part in the universe. So I guess what I'm saying is don't sweat the small stuff kid, cause in the end it's all fire wood. PS Dr.s are a waste of time don't tell them anything they just want your money street drugs are way better and help support local community

KandiGhostcat
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Oct 8, 2014 5:01 pm

Like I said before, my dad is a good parent. He has not harmed, abused, etc. me in anyway and never has or will. I do take medication for my high anxiety. I've had high anxiety since I was 8. The problem is I really can't tell my parents how I feel because I didn't tell them when I should've a long time ago (when I first got high anxiety). I don't feel like I can open up to them. I would rather talk to my doctor about this then my parents. Its not that I don't trust my parents or anything but its that I'm not familiar with expressing my feelings to them.

NERDGIRL
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Oct 8, 2014 10:17 am

You need to tell your doctor, but most importantly, has your father ever harmed you in any way? If that is the case than you NEED to get help immediately from the police, a doctor, someone at school. If that is not the case, you need to tell your doctor as soon as possible. You don't have to live this way, there is help out there. I started experiencing anxiety when I was thirteen and let it go for too long. I am now 29 years old and almost completely anxiety free, due to medication and therapy. Try starting off by telling your dad that you've been feeling a lot of anxiety. He won't get mad at you for expressing how you feel, especially if you can try to do it calmly. Parents love you and are there to help you. If you can't do it calmly, who cares? Just remember that he DOES love you and if he gets frustrated or impatient, he'll get over it. Both you and your father have a right to your feelings, yours of anxiety and his of frustration. just keep in mind that his feelings of frustration may be coming from a place of concern about you and him not being able to help. Remember, NOTHING lasts forever, especially not an anxiety attack (even though it may feel like it). Keep in mind when you are talking with your dad (if you chose to do so, which I think you should) be careful with your words. Don't tell him you're afraid of him, tell him that sometimes you feel overwhelmed/anxious when talking with him. Everything will work out if you get the help you need!

I'm afraid of my dad? help!

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